If we told you that stress is subjective, you’d probably start calling us names. But come to think of it, stress and time aren’t as closely related as we think. Most resident doctors today work over eighty hours a week, and some entrepreneurs manage to top that number as well.
And yet, there are people who do it for years, decades even, and seem not to crack under the pressure. What, then, drives some people to be more unhappy with work than the others?
When we worked on our #FirstTimeManager series last year, there was something that we said we would come to as a series by itself. Over a year later and enriched with multiple conversations on challenges managers face, we look at performance anxiety and stress, which peak in managers, leaders and founders.
The more we talk about stress, the more stressful it gets!
For many of us on a typical morning, it is common to have mental chatter even before we’re fully awake. We think about our task list, plan for the entire day, and let the brain go on a trip even before the day has actually begun.
Like us, you’ve probably seen the Eisenhower matrix several times in your life and never used it. It is possible that you may have tried and given up after numerous failed attempts.
Managing time is the single most powerful source of stress in our life and yet, paradoxically, it is something that we seem to be rather miserable at as a species.
A few years ago, one of Facebook’s core employees put out a post that went viral- work, home, exercise, sleep, friends: if you could only have three of these things, which one would you choose?
Ask yourself now and see how easy or difficult it was to choose just three. And the temptation to ask, why can't I want all? Do you have the time? Maybe. Do you have the energy??
Whenever we need a mid-week pick-me-up, whenever we’re feeling drained, all we really need to do is look at people who were, and are, so relentlessly in pursuit of what they believe in. These are people who we read about with longing, and more often than not, these are also people heavily criticized by their contemporaries.
When we hear the word ‘resilience,’ we often think of it as a response to something else. Resilience is a trait that is often characterized as ‘despite’ rather than as something that can be exhibited under all circumstances. Yes, elasticity only comes to the picture when one is stretched, but how do different people in similar situations exhibit different responses to the same level of stress?
Before the summer of 2015, it was very rare for C-suite executives to openly talk about personal loss and tragedy and how they recovered from it. And yet, when Sheryl Sandberg lost her husband, she found support on the very platform she works to market- Facebook.
While it is absolutely true that anyone might be in a position of having taken a career break, we do notice that it is most often the women who do so. Hence, this guide is oriented towards women getting back after a break, but also has useful tips for anyone looking to explain a change of pace, work or even being let go from an earlier organisation.
We’re lucky that we live in a connected world. Unlike the earlier workforce that needed to go through acquaintances and job portals, and then wait endlessly for a recommendation, we today have powerful social media tools that put us front and centre in a hirer’s mind, or put that dream job right in front of our eyes. Make the most of it!
Irrespective of whether you got a promotion this time around or not, you’re surely thinking of ways to up your game in the coming year. Knowing exactly where you feel short this year can help you set specific goals to move forward with.
Enough guides and then some have been written about what to do when you don’t get a promotion. Even we will write one! Sometimes, it does feel like having something to achieve is a much bigger driver than the act of actually accomplishing something.
A little more persistence, a little more effort, and what seemed hopeless failure may turn to glorious success. - Elbert Hubbard
It is hard to share that same view when you’re reeling from a freshly missed opportunity. Know that at such a time, it is natural to feel at a loss, and like you’ve been served up the short end of the stick.
For Anamika, 29, Delhi had been home for many decades. From her early years and right until graduation and work, she had gotten used to the many by-lanes and the sheer size of the city. When she got married to a Bengaluru-based tech professional, one of them had to make the move, and she decided it would be her.
Have you ever experienced the feeling of finally having ‘arrived’? That sense we get of knowing that a long-cherished dream has come true is the subtle line between building a career and going to work. And yet, that isn’t a journey to undertake in a day or even a year. Some things pan out the way they do because of the years of consistent work that preceded them.